Once your nanny is in place, you want to know she is doing a good job. But how do you know when you are away from the house all day? Some families turn to a “nanny cam”—a hidden camera designed to show you what goes on in your house while you are away. Using a hidden camera with no sound is legal, but you’ll want to check the laws in your state regarding recording a person’s speech without their consent.
If you are considering a nanny cam, consider advising your nanny about it. Most providers understand the desire to know what goes on with their children when they are not around, they just want to know about it.
But you don’t necessarily need a hidden camera to determine how things are going. If your child is happy to see the nanny and is excited to tell you about the fun things they did during the day, and the nanny seems engaged and happy, it’s a good sign things are working out. If she seems overwhelmed, exhausted, and unhappy, be sure to talk with her about it.
Here are some warning signs to watch for:
- Your child seems anxious or withdrawn around the nanny
- The nanny doesn’t talk about the day or her stories don’t make sense
- Your childrearing requests aren’t honored
- Change in your child’s behavior—any sort of dramatic behavioral change.
- Your child starts using inappropriate words.
- Your child starts showing an unusual interest in people’s private parts.
- Any talk of secrets or keeping anything from anyone.
- An excessive amount of scrapes, cuts, and bruises.
Listen to your intuition—if things don’t seem right, and a conversation with the nanny doesn’t seem to help, it may be time to look for someone else.